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For the guys in the house, this is for you..Read below

Letter to "Padlock Men" Who is a "Padlock man"? Any man who doesn't have tangible plans for his lady, yet stands in her way of finding love.

If you've been dating a lady for more than 2 years and you haven't given her a ring; End that relationship today, don't be selfish, don't be a Padlock Man. Let her find Someone who will step up and is worthy of her time. Since all you do is :

1⃣You use one of the most important things a lady has which is her Time / Age / Youth ( She will never be 24 again, or 25 again, or 27 again) wasting her time is Detrimental.
2⃣You eat her food ( You've turned her into your real life Ekaete / or maid)
3⃣You've increased her V*gina mileage (You have been dating for more than 2 years and you have sex almost every day, what will be left for the next guy?)

 4⃣You let her do occasional abortions for you because you know you won't marry her
5⃣You collect her money & Savings ( she gives you money because she's investing in you, not because she's a charity organization but she doesn't know she's investing in you to find your own Mrs right in the nearest future)
6⃣You're using her Star and Prayers

7⃣ You introduce her to your friends / family and instruct them to call her IYAWO WA knowing that's what she wants to hear.

There are a lot of Intentional and Unintentional Padlock Guys who know that they don't have any tangible plans for a lady but yet keep her around and fill her head with tales of imagery love.
Ladies, it is your job to wakeup and realize that you're not this mans lover or girlfriend but you're his default mother / Sponsor. You cater for him, nurture and pray for him with a promise of 💍 Love. A promise alone doesn't cut it these days. SOMETHING TANGIBLE pays more. It's like you're investing in a business without insurance. Last week I received a mail from a lady who wanted to commit suicide because she dated this guy for 4 years, they broke up , 3 months later she saw his picture on a wedding blog. Ladies, This won't be your portion. Amen! It's not about prayers alone. Be aggressive, think like a man and use Logic instead of emotions

Wrestler John Cena on Sunday  proposed to long-time girlfriend, Nikki Bella, in the middle of the ring after the duo defeated The Miz and Maryse at Wrestlemania 33.

Cena got down on one knee and proposed with a diamond ring. He said he had been waiting so long to ask her to marry him.

Luckily for the 16-time World Champion, Nikki Bella said yes and gave a kiss, to the delight of the 60,000 fans watching in Orlando.

Cena and his bride-to-be are expected to now take some time off from WWE following the announcement.

Stephanie Otobo, a Canadian singer who accused popular Nigerian pastor, Apostle Johnson Suleman of impregnating h and later trying to kill her.
 

Earlier today, she provided more evidence to buttress her allegations that Apostle Suleman has communications with her during a yearlong sexual frolic that saw the Apostle flying her all over the world for sex.

One of the numerous facetime chats happened On October 19, 2016, at 5:26 PM according to the timestamp on the phone.


Watch the video below



A lady (named withheld) who has had several abortions for her boss  just because he gave her a promotion at work, says she is currently pregnant again with his child and is afraid to have another abortion.

She wrote in to relationship blog BOM to seek readers’ advice. What do you think she should do in this case?
Read what she sent out below
I am pregnant for my boss in the office and it is killing me slowly. I have been aborting and aborting but this time am scared for my life. This man gave me common promotion and since then he has been abusing me. He sxx me everywhere in the office ,use me any how he likes and he never gives me money . If I ask for money,he will say I should wait for salary. This man has never had sxx with me in a hotel or a decent place,only in hopeless places ,his car,office rest rooms,back yard,odd places . After sxx he will ask me to go clean myself up. He refuse me to keep a boyfriend. Please I need advise,should I keep this baby or take my chances and take it off.


Marriage is “for better for worse” they say but when the worst is turning to the end of your life, you either run or cry for help.
This is the story of an unhappy husband who claims his wife beats him up all the time and he has tried to defend himself sometimes–but–ends up getting beating the more.






Source: InformationNG

As a rule, modern people are free to travel all around the world. If your finances and job allow, you can spend your entire life on the road. But what if traveling is not your main activity and you’ve met a special girl who is actually a travel addict? Here are 8 important factors that may influence your relationship with a woman like this.

1. She will not always be available for communication. One of the core things to know before dating an enthusiastic traveler is that you won’t be able to spend too much time together due to her busy schedule. People who have wanderlust in their veins are typically freelancers so they don’t have to stick to one and only place. If your lifestyle is absolutely different from hers, there is the risk of a breakup.

2. Prepare to carve out time from your schedule. Her visits may be rare, you know it. Furthermore, they may be spontaneous and you will have to adjust your plans to her schedule. Not that it was something terrible or hard to complete yet it might be somewhat irritating. In some cases, you must give up your interests in the name of bigger things.

3. A trip will be the best gift for her. People who are in love with adventures and new impressions prefer getting special gifts. Instead of spending your money on jewelry or restaurants, you’d better confess your love by arranging a romantic vacation for the two of you. Indeed, what can be more exciting than going to new cool places with your beloved one?

4. She will expect you to share her adventures. If you don’t like traveling, you should probably not date a girl who can’t live without world tours. But if you have nothing against opening new horizons, your significant other will be happy to take joint trips from time to time.

5. Be ready to reach compromises. Couples, where partners live their lives differently, are prone to arguments and even fights. Dissimilar lifestyle habits mean conflicting goals and interests. No relationship survives if lovers fail to understand each other and agree on particular matters.

6. This may impact your financial state. When you date a girl who dedicates most of her life to traveling, you likely join her on some trips. This means you spend more money on pleasures than an average guy with middle income. Even though there is a plenty of cheap options, traveling across many countries and continents can eat your money up. Think how you can handle it!

7. It might be more difficult to build a connection. When your beloved one is far away and it happens regularly, your communication might get poor. A very dangerous factor! It is impossible to build a healthy relationship without the mutual trust, proper verbal and non-verbal interaction, and understanding. You two should work out the strategy that would allow you to actively participate in each other’s lives.

8. It might be a bit like an LDR. A long-distance relationship I mean. This is quite a risky undertaking because not all daters are capable of maintaining the strong connection without regular contacts. In particular, your fidelity might suffer from the absence of communication. When your girlfriend is on the other side of the planet, you start thinking of what she might be doing right now and with what guys. Likewise, there is a seductive opportunity to have fun with other girls in your environment.

Source: Liveofofo
don jazzy and tonto dikeh

Marvins Record Backbone, Don Jazzy has weighed in on Tonto Dikeh’s marital misfortune.

Tonto Dikeh’s publicly failed marriage on Instagram to ‘bare it all’ interview has shed much needed light on issues in her home.

The Musical maestro and Mavin who must have watched the video appears to be passing a subtle message to Tonto Dikeh.

As he posted lyrics to Iyanya’s new song hold on and added ‘your real man ordained by God will stay.

It also currently making rounds that Don Jazzy has intention to sign BBNaija melodious voice, Debie Rise.



Apostle Johnson Suleiman, the founder of the Auchi-based Omega Fire Ministries, has been accused of dumping his pregnant lover, whom he promised marriage, and is using the police to silence her.

The lover, Miss Stephanie Otobo, is a musician based in Ontario, Canada, who goes by the stage name of Kimora. Miss Otobo’s attorneys, Festus Keyamo Chambers, in a letter to the Inspector-General of Police, said she was arrested on March 3 at a United Bank of Africa branch by heavily armed policemen from Federal Criminal Investigations Department (FCID), Alagbon, at the Anthony Village area of Lagos. She has since been in detention, where she has been denied food and visitation by her lawyers.

Apostle Suleiman and Miss Otobo, according to her lawyers, met in September 2016, when she visited Nigeria from her base in Canada. They began a relationship, with Apostle Suleiman telling her that he had divorced his wife and wanted more male children. The affair grew stronger. Apostle Suleiman made a marriage proposal to Miss Otobo, which she accepted. 

This was followed by a formal introduction of Apostle Suleiman to her family. On the occasion, the preacher took along drinks and gifts and informed Miss Otobo’s family in Delta state of his desire to marry their daughter.

With the affair gaining in intensity, Miss Otobo abandoned her blossoming musical career in Canada to move over to Nigeria to the delight of Apostle Suleiman, who promised to buy her a house and provide her the standard of living to which she was used in Canada.

So strong was the relationship that Apostle Suleiman made a habit of licking Miss Otobo’s body from her toes to her private part any time they wanted to make love. Miss Otobo also became a member of the Apostle Suleiman’s church, following him around the world, selecting sermon topics for him and choosing songs for his church services. Apostle Suleiman also sent Miss Otobo money on a regular basis.

The pastor’s desire to have more male children, according to Miss Otobo’s lawyers, made him demand that his lover should get pregnant. She subsequently got pregnant. But in September 2016, Miss Otobo visited Nigeria and told the preacher that she was pregnant in a hotel she was lodged in Ikeja, Lagos.

The news of the pregnancy angered Apostle Suleiman, who apparently was afraid of the scandal such could bring. He wanted her to have an abortion and proceeded to give her a concoction, which made Miss Otobo bleed profusely and subsequently abandoned her, calling off the marriage proposal. Miss Otobo later went to Warri, where he met another pastor and told him his story. The pastor recorded her story and started using it to extort money from Apostle Suleiman.

After the disagreement over the pregnancy, Miss Otobo returned to Canada. But Apostle Suleiman got in touch with her and apologized for abandoning her. He subsequently started to persuade her to return to Nigeria. Last week, Miss Otobo returned to Nigeria. Apostle Suleiman, working on a scheme to silence her, paid money into her account and then got the account frozen. It was while Miss Otobo was trying to make a withdrawal from her account, having tried unsuccessfully to use an Automated Teller Machine, that she was arrested on the orders of Apostle Suleiman.

According to Miss Otobo, Apostle Suleiman is a spectacularly dissolute man. He once requested her, she said, to bring her friends along for group sex, a request turned down given that there was a plan to get married.

Miss Otobo, through her lawyers, warned Apostle Suleiman that she has their Unclad pictures together, raunchy text messages, bank statements, and other implicating items.

They lawyers disclosed that Miss Otobo used to send nude pictures to Apostle Suleiman every Sunday, just before he went on the pulpit.

Despite these, Suleiman called off the marriage proposal. However, Miss Otobo is not willing to take it lying down. She is demanding to be paid the sum of N500million as damages for not honoring the promise to marry her. Miss Otobo also wants Apostle Suleiman to stop harassing her and threatening her life. Her lawyers have given the preacher a seven-day ultimatum to meet the demands or get reported to law enforcement agencies for the threat to her life and face trial for breaching the promise to marry her.


Source: Sahara Reporters

A Lagos Island Customary Court today dissolved the marriage between Nollywood actor, Emeka Ike and his wife, Emma over an alleged incessant battery.

Emma, a teacher, had on July 13, 2015, approached the court to dissolve the 14-year-old marriage between her and the Nollywood star.

The court president, Mr Awos Awosola, said from the totality of the evidence before the court, it was obvious that the marriage was beyond redemption.

“Emeka, who has been begging to be reconciled with his wife, has not made any effort towards the reconciliation.

“The marriage is hereby dissolved with effect from March 2, in accordance with the Lagos State Customary Court Law, 2011; Order 3 Rule 7 as amended.

“Any party that is not satisfied with the judgment has the right to appeal to any court of higher jurisdiction within 30 days from today,’’ the court president ruled.

Awosola awarded the custody of their four children to the husband and ordered that the wife must have unhindered access to them.

He said that N300 paid as Emma’s bride price had been returned to Emeka and urged both parties to maintain peace.

The mother of four had earlier told the court that her husband had been physically and verbally abusing her all through the duration of their marriage.

“My husband treated me like nobody and throughout this divorce tussle; he had denied me access to my children,” the woman said.

“He does not allow them to pick my call as he keeps changing their numbers.

“The last time I heard my first son’s voice was when he was sick and about to undergo surgery.

“It was a friend who informed me that my son was in the hospital and I called Emeka asking him for the location of the hospital but he refused to disclose that.”

Source: The Nation

Heheheehe It's a day to Valentine's Day!!!! Hmmm I can smell love in the air wink wink .....So here are some cute romantic text messages u can send to your loved ones ....It's a month of LOVE so show some love cool

1. Hey! Do you know what I just noticed? Cute has U in the middle! No wonder I found you so sweet and special all along. Happy Valentine’s Day!

2. My days and nights are spent thinking of you. My dreams have come true now that you are in my life. Happy Valentine’s Day!

3. In life, love is never planned, nor does it happen for a reason. But when love is real, it becomes your plan for life and reason for living. Happy Valentine’s Day my love.

4. Even though we don’t get to be with each other as much as we’d like, I wanted you to know… In the morning… In the night…. You are on my mind 24 x 7

5. No poems, no fancy words. I just want the world to know that I LOVE YOU my Princess with all my heart. Happy Valentine’s Day.

6. Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart. As we are, Happy Valentine’s Day sweetheart.

7. There are only two times that I want to be with you
NOW & FOREVER

8. Love can be expressed in many ways.
One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.
♥ ♥ ♥ Happy Valentine’s Day ♥ ♥ ♥

9. I can fake a smile when I feel sad, I can pretend to be happy when I feel bad. But one thing I can’t do, is pretend that I don’t love you.

10. You are my heart, my soul, my treasure, my today, my tomorrow, my forever, my everything. Happy Valentine’s Day. cool


Source: Nairaland

A man in a bid to educate young folks on the public page of a relationship blogger, Joro Olumofin has shared a touching story of how his ex girlfriend gave up her virginity in the past for a used BlackBerry smartphone and a sum of N10,000.


After looking for the Right Man for 30 year, the Mrs. Pictured Above just got married. She's 60.. She seeks for husband for good 30 years.. Happy Married Life

A 32 year old Nigerian feel happy and excited for marrying a white woman, the Photo went viral on social media. According to a witness, the man reportedly from Ondo state -was very elated and couldn't contain his excitement after tying the knot with the woman at Ikoyi registry in Lagos. 

As shared on social media, he wrote

Ba mi dupe luwo oluwa ooo.. Mo ti fe oyinbo, jesu seun" (Help me thank God, I've married a white). Those were the words of this young man while receiving a phone call, just after tying the knot with this white woman at the Ikoyi registry earlier today.




Apparently, I was meant to understand that such thing happens almost everyday at the registry. Young Nigerian men come in with different foreign "oldie mama youngie's", all for the Paper's and the Chedda. It's more a like trend!

Obviously, the desire to get a “by-fire-by-force green card” has really blinded alot of Nigerian men or how else does one explain why a 32 year old man would bring home a foreign grandmother for marriage without the elderly in his family berating him.

Honestly, I thought the Yoruba has got culture. What has happened? Because the man in question is a Yoruba man, from Ondo State precisely. 


As a matter of fact, i was also rightly informed that the young man is married with two kids. Guess, his wife travelled or something, but his kids were present at the court wedding. And from where I sat, I overheard the kids calling him "Daddy..Daddy", and the man replied in Yoruba disgruntledly " E ma pe mi ni daddy mo, se e ti gbo". (Don't call me daddy, hope you've heard). At that point, i knew something funny was going on.


1. Women who are not Celibate ( Most Celibate women have had sex with more than 50 men and are trying hard to redeem their Vagina. Please don't fall for the celibacy trick. It is a calculated ruse to deceive men) .

2.Women who wear two underwears a day 2B. Please run from women with unshaved armpit.

3. A Woman who has never committed an abortion


4. Women who don't snapchat during service .

5. Women who don't use the hopeless 'Dog snapchat filter' 5B. Any woman who doesn't look exactly like her Social Media Pictures should be dumped immediately.

6. A woman who doesn't own an IPhone (This is rare but a calculated strategy to spot a woman u can marry immediately).

7. Send 40 DMs a week (Send the Messages don't be scared) 

8. Any woman whose page is locked is not ready for marriage ( She is obviously hiding something)

9. A woman who responds to DMs should be first on your list for consideration (It means she is looking for friendship)

10. Stay away from Single ladies around Lekki Phase 1, Oando Filling Station Round about Lekki, Surulere, Imo State, Asokoro, Gwarinpa, Maitama and Wuse 2 Abuja. ( If you must date them please ask for their source of income, Lekki Phase 1 is the head quarters for Runs girls)

11. Any woman who calls her self a Makeup artist should not be taken seriously. Everyone is a make up artist nowadays even my self @dokunolumofin( Unserious women) The likes of Banke, Oshewa etc are renowned MUAs. They are Professionals not the self acclaimed MUAs. .

13. Any woman who cannot go a year without a gift from you should be dumped immediately.

14. A lady with hair net around the house and nasty dirty towel wrapped around her body like a village woman should be dropped instantly (we are in the 21st century for chrissake!)

15. Women who use more than 1hour to make up should not be considered.

16. Do not marry a woman who practises only Missionary style during sex (variety is the spice of life).

17. MyTop Recommended States with Best Wives (Ogun, Ondo, Osun,Anambra,Enugu, Ekiti, Kaduna, Adamawa, Calabar, Bayelsa, Katsina, Borno,Rivers,Edo,Akwa ibom,onitsha

Written By: Dokun Olumofin

A young and tender Nigerian girl is currently seeking for a serious relationship to lighten up her soul.
Relationship blogger, Joro Olumofin has showcased the romance request of a 21 year old virgin who is seeking for a true man to spice up her life.
Not the real church pic, photo used for illustrative purpose

There is a church known as ‘Mercedes Church or Uka Achi’ in Abagana, Anambra State, which has stunned many people with its mode of operation.
 
The church, which was founded by the late Jeremiah Achi, who passed on two years ago, has the culture of swapping spouses for the church members in the name of getting them hooked to their God-given partner and wrapping it up with a Mercedes Benz car.
 
According to the New Telegraph, investigations revealed that the criteria for getting a brand new Mercedes Benz car is when a male member of the church is picked for the husband swap.
 
Though the swap is neither compulsory nor forced on members, it is said that it comes in form of vision by the general overseer, who died two years ago. Through a vision, a dedicated male member of the church may be seen not to be marrying his God-given wife, hence, another wife is picked for the man from the church to marry as the real life partner whether both are married with children or not.
 
The practice, it was gathered, had been going on for years with men leaving their already established homes to remarry other women with children. But the spicy meal laced with a Mercedes Benz car gift became sour when a man in the church was asked to leave his wife, who a vision revealed was not his nature-ordained wife, to marry another woman with four children while the woman’s husband was swapped to marry the man’s wife.
 
The said man got to his new home only to face rejection from the grown up children of the woman who were already in secondary school. On arrival, he got a very numb reception and in the following weeks, the children refused to either greet him or call him daddy, despite their mother’s explanations and admonitions; even neighbours began to ask the children about their father’s whereabouts and who the man they see with their mother was.
 
After a while of enduring the pain of rejection and with all the new wife’s vain effort to get them to accept the man as their father, the man got fed up and decided it was time to leave and return to his family.
 
He left the new family and returned to his home and told the man living with his wife to leave his home, but the man refused.
 
So, he was forced to go back to his pastor, who pacified him and told him that he will resolve the matter.
 
But the man, who was apparently livid, already had his mind made up on returning back to his home and stormed out of the church in anger. That was the way the man left the church and chased away the man living in his home to return to his own wife.
 
Not long after the scenario, the general overseer of the church passed away. After his demise and burial, the church continued with its doctrine for a while before shifting base to another location close to the old one led by one of the assistant pastors.
 
According to a choir member of the church, who at first meeting didn’t want to talk to New Telegraph, the story of Mercedes and wife swap were all lies.
 
She said that the late general overseer was only doing certain things to help the members. She alluded to the fact that the help included the gift of a car and a wife. “The car is given to help the couple start their life,” she said.
 
She denied that the church does wife swap, but sometimes “The late general overseer may see someone in a vision and tell the person that the woman he is married to is not his God-ordained wife.
“I don’t think there is anything wrong with obeying an instruction from a man of God because God speaks through him,” she said.
 
After several weeks of tracking the new pastor for an interview failed, the reporter took to adorning a head to toe white regalia in order to enter the church and that way, the pastor, Mr. Emmanuel Ikealor, who severally said he does not speak to journalists, opened up and simply said: “Yes, our daddy used to give a Mercedes Benz car to members of the church who are poor and when he sees in a vision that you are not married to your heaven ordained life partner, he will unite you with your true partner and do the same with the person swapped. Those that did it then have no regrets till today.

“I don’t know why people derive joy in saying what they know nothing about. These things are very spiritual. Even though, I was not married then, it was daddy that picked my wife for me and I am at peace with her.

“A spiritual man sees beyond the physical. That is what people do not understand.”
 
On how the money for the car gifts was sourced, he said: “I cannot answer that.” It was, however, observed that the church which has white as its uniform for services, holds service three times a week while Sunday services last from 8a.m. to 5p.m.
 
It was also observed that most members who have cars drive Mercedes Benz.
 
According to an elderly man, Chief Kanayo Nwafor, whose house is close to the church, the “Uka Achi/Mercedes church” has been in existence in Abagana for as long as over six years, but was not popular until the man who founded the church started giving out cars. Nwafor said that the man, before he died, used to be a native doctor for a long time before he claimed he had become a born again and opened a church.
 
“People then started calling it uka Mercedes (Mercedes church) because they gave out Mercedes cars to the people they swap for marriage.
 
“ I don’t have the right to judge anybody. Only God has the right. But I wonder how somebody will ask me to leave the wife I have married to go and marry someone else’s wife even if she already has grown up children. It’s absurd. ”
 
According to the New Telegraoh, investigations showed that the husband/wife swap is still being practised in the new church in line with the principles of the late founder and for the pastor; there is nothing wrong with it.
 
He asked: “If you are married to a queen of the coast, who has only come into your life to torment you and a man of God has his eyes opened to save you from that decay, would you decline?”
 
Efforts to speak to a member of the church whose wife was swapped failed as he declined to answer the questions put to him.

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